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The Real Reason You Can’t Do What Others Can
If I’m honest with myself, I have to admit that I can’t do what most other people can. When my sister tells me her weekend plans, for example, I feel exhausted just hearing them all. She manages them quite successfully, whereas I personally find that when I commit to...
Are You Afraid to Fail? If So, There’s Something You Should Know.
“Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness.” --Oprah Winfrey We human beings have a complicated relationship with failure. We almost instinctively fear it at the same time that we acknowledge its benefits. We...
25 Ways to Loosen Fear’s Grip
As I prepared to write this post, I realized that I’ve written a lot about fear. Maybe it’s because most of the people I talk to mention fear as one of their biggest challenges. Whether it’s fear of failure, fear of making the wrong decision, fear of not making enough...
Not Sure Where to Start to Find Your Calling? Here’s One Super Powerful Thing You Can Do (in < 10 Minutes a Day)
School teaches many things, but in 13 years most of us learn almost nothing about how to live a fulfilling life. We’re not taught how to identify what’s most important to us or be true to our deepest desires in a dynamic and imperfect world. We’re not taught how to...
Self Doubt: A Love Letter and a Guide
A few weeks ago a wave of self doubt overwhelmed me like a particularly bad case of the flu. I struggled to make important decisions, like whether to watch a movie or take a nap. The consequences were clearly enormous, and I was afraid of getting it wrong. When I did...
The Power of Desire and How to Use It to Transform Your Life
Last Monday I did an experiment after getting back from vacation. I wanted to see if I could maintain the level of relaxation I’d established the previous two weeks while traveling when I returned to work and my more stressful To Dos. I decided not to do anything...
Want a Career Change But Don’t Want to Start Over? Here are 3 Good Options
One of the most common concerns I hear from people who want to find more fulfilling work is that they don’t want to start over. Starting over—whether it’s in a new field, new role, or new organization—definitely has its challenges. For one thing, in many industries...
Why Not Always Getting What You Want Is a Really Good Thing
In a lot of ways, I’m just like every other human being on this planet. When I want something, I want the world to give it to me, easily and abundantly, pretty much right away. And also like my fellow human beings, I find that my hopes are pretty consistently...
Why You Don’t Need to Feel Guilty About Wanting More
I received an email recently from a lovely woman describing a very common problem. She reported feeling blessed in many ways: she has a wonderful son, a career in a respected field, and a job that offers flexibility. Despite this, she’s not happy with her work and is...
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What Cicadas Can Teach Us About Growth
I’m still not totally sure why, but I’ve been struggling recently. Not externally, with how things are going for me right now, which is actually amazingly well given what’s going on in the world. Rather, I’ve been struggling internally, with strong waves of emotions...
12 Clues You Can Use to Find Your Calling
For most of us, the idea that there’s one career out there that we’re meant to do is a shaky proposition at best. In many ways we’re right to be skeptical. I’ve already addressed some of the biggest myths about finding your calling, but it bears repeating that your...
Is the Problem My Job, or Is It Me? (A Choose-Your-Own-Adventure Post)
A client asked me this question recently, and I’ve heard versions of it before. I understand why. If you’re miserable at work but are surrounded by people who seem to be enjoying and/or excelling at the very same job that makes you want to flee; if you have a...
The Only Question You Need to Ask to Find Your Calling (and How to Discover Its Answer)
In my last blog post, I wrote about the essential first step of any heroic journey: admitting that you have no idea where to go next. Simply accepting this reality can open up a lot of new possibilities, and a way forward often emerges naturally if you accept it for...
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