“We are disabused of our original giftedness in the first half of our lives. Then—if we are awake, aware, and able to admit our loss—we spend the second half trying to recover and reclaim the gift we once possessed.”Parker Palmer, Let Your Life Speak
We come into this world with unique and needed gifts that we share just by being who we are.
But we learn at a young age to analyze and doubt our contributions, to ignore and deny who we are, to strive and override our nature. Eventually we forget what’s ours to give. (I should know. I forgot my gifts for over twenty years.)
As a result, most of us don’t know what function we serve, but like every other living being on this planet, we’re wired to serve one.
Like the phantom pain of an absent limb, our missing purpose haunts us.
Now more than ever, the world needs all our gifts.
But to find our way back to our “original giftedness”—and the joy, meaning, and fulfillment that it brings—we can’t use the same approach that caused us to lose it in the first place.
We can’t analyze, plan, or control our way to what we long for most. Instead, we’re being asked to learn how to listen, trust, and surrender.
Coaching provides a safe space in which to do this.
Working together, we’ll ask big questions and listen for little clues.
We’ll explore questions like:
- Who am I really?
- What parts of myself have I lost touch with?
- What are my gifts to give the world? What’s mine to create?
- How can I integrate who I am and what I love into my work?
- How can I more fully express who I am for the benefit of all?
- What are my heart and soul longing for? How can I bring more of that into my life regardless of limitations or circumstances?
- Where is home for me? How can I find it?
- How can I make peace with what’s happening in my life and the world?
- How is life inviting me to grow and expand right now?
- How can I connect more deeply with myself, other people, and the wider living world?
- What are my next steps?
All the answers are already within us.
When we feel lost, confused, or stuck, it’s usually because we haven’t taken the time to listen for answers, we don’t know how, or there’s something getting in the way.
Together, we’ll create sacred time and space to explore your most important questions.
As obstacles arise, we’ll work through them together, listening for what they can teach us.
Obstacles might take the form of:
- Too few or too many options
- Lack of self care
- Lack of boundaries
- Lack of support
- Negative thinking
- Intense emotions
Each obstacle points to a forgotten aspect of our true nature. Together, we’ll discover the gifts in any that arise.
How it works
I’m a practical person. I understand that we all have real needs, real limitations, and real challenges.
That said, I’ve found that practical action must be based in our soul’s deepest truth if it’s going to give us what we’re looking for.
So in coaching, we sit together. We ask questions. We listen for responses from our deepest, wisest parts. And we make space for whatever needs to arise—all of the feelings and fears, the hesitations and obstacles.
As we honor all of it with our focused and loving attention, blockages begin to fall away. Mud settles. Clarity starts to emerge.
Eventually, practical action becomes clear.
About the coaching sessions:
- Format: virtual, via Zoom
- First session: 75 minutes, $225 (includes an Enneagram test)
- All subsequent sessions: 50 minutes, $155
- Frequency: 1-4 times per month (you choose)
- Duration: It’s an organic process, so it’s different for everyone, but it usually takes at least 12 sessions.
I have a portfolio of practical exercises and activities that I’ve honed over the last 10 years to help my clients uncover their superpowers, passion, and purpose and identify the type of work they want to do in the world. You’ll have access to any and all that might be helpful.
We’ll involve the natural world as much as possible because it calms the nervous system, connects us to something larger than ourselves, and reminds us what it feels like to be unconditionally loved.
How to get started
To learn more or get started, click here to request a free call.
On the call, we’ll talk about what you’re looking for and go over any questions you may have. If it feels like a fit, we’ll go ahead and schedule your first coaching session.
I’m a certified Integral coach with a Masters in Business Administration from USF. In addition to one-on-one coaching, I also write and lead workshops for organizations such as Emory University and the U.S. Peace Corps. My first book is now available, and I’ve contributed shorter pieces to Tiny Buddha, elephant journal, PossibilityChange.com and more. I’m a former board member of the Georgia chapter of ICF and have served as an adjunct faculty member at New Ventures West coaching school in San Francisco.