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5 Fun and Free Ways to Identify Your Superpowers

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We all have them: powerful capabilities bestowed by some freak accident that give us the power to vanquish evil and save the world.

Okay, or—perhaps more likely for most of us—they’re incredible talents that we were born with under more normal circumstances, and that may or may not be used towards such a dramatic end.

But the fact remains that all human beings have these amazing abilities that we’re often not even aware of and that have the power to change the world.

They’re responsible for humankind’s greatest accomplishments. They allow each of us to contribute unique and needed gifts to the world in ways that nobody else can. And studies have shown that people who use them are happier, less stressed, more fulfilled, and more productive.

They’re also key to finding meaningful work you love. If you read my blog post about the 5 steps to finding your calling, you know that Step #1 is all about identifying these superpowers and claiming them with confidence.

But how can you know what your superpowers are, and—since I know some people will be asking—how can you even be sure that you have them?

I’ve met lots of people who thought they didn’t have any extraordinary capabilities, but I’ve never met anyone who didn’t actually have at least one. Superpowers are real, and we all have them. It’s just that they’re less obvious than you’d think, and it usually takes some work to uncover them.

So here are 5 fun things you can do today to reveal your superpowers, discover your mission, and make your mark:

1. Get curious about the people you admire.

 Try this: make a list of 5 people you admire. For each one, write down what it is about them that you respect or appreciate. Do this first, before reading any further (or skip to the next section if you can’t do it right now.) Seriously, this exercise will only work if you don’t know what’s coming next.

Okay, so you have your list of admired people and qualities, right?

Now take a few minutes and journal about the ways in which you exhibit these same qualities. See if you can recall any times when you’ve demonstrated them in the past.

The qualities you wrote down for others are very likely key elements of your own superpowers.

Here’s why: the things we admire in others are really core aspects of ourselves. (And conversely, the things that irritate us about other people are also ours to claim, but that’s a topic for a different post.)

The key here is not to get caught up comparing yourself to the people you look up to or what they accomplished. This isn’t really about achievements. What happens when we use our superpowers is not an indication of their strength.

I’m going to say that again, because I think it’s important to really take in: What happens when we use our superpowers is not an indication of their strength.

When we put our gifts to work, the results are like an iceberg. We see only about 10% of the actual effects of our efforts. There’s just no way to know how we’ve impacted everyone or everything we touched, all the ways we benefited them, or how they then went on to help others because of what we gave them.

So without judging the caliber of the qualities you’ve identified, just feel into which ones might belong to you as well. Anything you’re willing to lay claim to is a superpower worth celebrating.

2. Start an Infinite List of what you do well.

If you’re not sure what an Infinite List is, it’s just a list that never ends. What you do well and the contributions you make to the world are neverending, and it can be very helpful to write them down so you can start to notice patterns.

You can do this by taking 5-10 minutes each evening to reflect on and record what you did well that day and what you contributed to others or the world.

The key here is to make sure you’re not discounting any of the good that you do. As a general rule of thumb, if it created any benefits for anyone, if it wasn’t a total disaster, or if you felt remotely good about it even if you’re not sure why, then you should put it on your list.

And keep in mind that small contributions can make a big difference. When I did this exercise for the first time, I eventually realized that something as simple as planting a flower in my yard could bring joy to a passing neighbor, or smiling at someone and extending a warm greeting could make their bad day better.

I recommend adding at least 20 things to your list everyday to make sure you’re fully acknowledging all the good that you do, no matter how small.

After a few weeks of this, you can go back and look for patterns in what you’re good at, including which types of actions you enjoyed most, which had the best results, and which felt most important to you.

3. Excavate your proudest accomplishments.

This one is pretty straightforward, though for some reason we rarely pause to do it.

Make a list of 5-10 accomplishments that you feel most proud of. Keep in mind that these may or may not have anything to do with what society considers important achievements. For example, graduating from college isn’t one of my favorite accomplishments. Working through depression, writing a novel when I was 12, and maintaining close relationships with my family are.

You’re looking for the accomplishments that are most meaningful to you. They may be big, like recording an album, or smaller, like hosting a fun dinner party for a group of friends. Either works.

Once you list your accomplishments, pick the 3-5 that you’re most proud of or that you enjoyed the most. Then tell the story of how you got the results that you did, and what skills, strengths, or characteristics you drew upon.

Keep in mind that there’s a difference between skills and strengths. Your superpowers are more about your strengths (though they can certainly help you learn skills). It can be helpful to list both, but try to avoid getting too caught up in what skills you do or don’t have, because you can always learn new ones. Your superpowers, on the other hand, are yours to claim no matter what experience and training you have.

Once you’ve made your list, go through and look for patterns. See what themes or common threads you can find.

4. Ask the people who know you well.

 Often our core gifts come so naturally to us that we assume that everyone can do them. It’s a common but debilitating mistake.

If you’re having a hard time believing that you have any superpowers or getting clear on what they are, the best thing to do is often to ask someone else. I recommend choosing 3-5 people who know you well in different contexts (eg work, family, friends, and hobbies or leisure activities).

Ask each person to spend 3 or so minutes describing what they like or appreciate about you, what they see as your natural gifts, or what they think you do well.

Don’t interrupt them as they’re talking, and for goodness’ sake don’t discount what they say. Instead, take detailed notes or record their words so you can come back to them later. Do your best to believe that they’re telling you the truth, and perhaps even allow yourself to bask in the glow of well-deserved praise if you can.

When they’re done, thank them and do the same for them.

Once again, when you’ve done this with a few people, review what they said and look for patterns. Keep in mind that just because they said it doesn’t mean you have to claim it. I believe it’s important to filter any feedback you get from others by asking yourself: What of this feels helpful and true to me?

Finally, also keep in mind that just because you’re good at something doesn’t mean you have to base your work life around it. We all usually have some superpowers that we don’t like to use. (I, for one, am very good at administration and organization, but they’re not things I love to do, at least not at work.)

You get to decide which superpowers to focus on, so when making your list, always ask yourself which ones you enjoy using most.

5. Follow the flow.

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi has defined flow as an “optimal experience” in which a person feels “strong, alert, in effortless control, unselfconscious, and at the peak of their abilities.” He goes so far as to say it’s the secret to happiness.

Most of us have experienced that feeling at some point when we’re involved in a task, often creative, that feels worthwhile and enjoyable. Our focus is completely on what we’re doing, we’re not fighting ourselves or wishing we were somewhere else, and time seems to vanish into thin air.

Flow is a pretty powerful clue about where your superpowers lie. To follow it, just start to notice when you’re so engaged in something that you lose track of time. It may be at work, but it also may be outside of it. Before I started coaching, for example, I could talk with friends about our internal worlds and what we were learning about ourselves and our patterns for hours and it would feel like just a few minutes had gone by.

As a side note, it can also be pretty helpful to reflect on what you used to love to do as a kid. Children are in flow states all the time, so remembering what you spent many satisfied hours doing as a kid can be another great clue. This is actually how I eventually returned to my love of writing—once I remembered how much I had loved to write as a child, I could no longer justify not doing it as an adult.

The main point here is that what you love to do is often directly related to your superpowers. I like to think of it as the universe’s way of making sure we contribute our greatest gifts to the world and create the things that only we can, by making it enjoyable and inherently fulfilling.

Follow that delicious cookie crumb trail and eventually you’re sure to find your calling.


PS If you’re still wanting help, there are some paid assessments that can help you identify your strengths. I reviewed my favorites here.

And if you’d like more help, I offer an online course about finding your calling with a whole module on identifying your superpowers (and it’s currently available on a sliding scale) as well as one-on-one and small group coaching.

How to Live Your Purpose Even If You Have No Idea What It Is

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If you’ve had a hard time figuring out what your purpose in life is, don’t worry. You’re not alone. And what’s more, you don’t really need to figure it out to find what you’re looking for.

When we talk about finding our life purpose, we’re usually looking for an organizing principle to give direction and meaning to all the chaos. We want to find a noble aspiration to dedicate ourselves to, something that will tell us who we are and what we were born to do. We’re searching for something that can make us feel we belong on this planet and that our lives are complete.

Finding your purpose can’t do this for you. Living your purpose can.

Where fulfillment comes from

When I was in my early twenties, I worked for a series of nonprofits that were doing work I truly believed in. I dedicated myself to furthering important missions like ending homelessness or empowering Mexican factory workers or creating a more just and humane economy.

I loved working on causes I believed in, but I still didn’t feel fulfilled. I didn’t feel my life was complete, and what I did at work gave me no sense of meaning or purpose in any other area of my life.

What I’ve found is key to fulfillment and meaning is making choices that align with what’s most important to me. Purpose hasn’t turned out to be some external goal or aspiration. Rather, it’s a living breathing part of who I am that can be expressed in any moment. It’s less grandiose, quieter, and harder to pin down than I used to imagine, but if I listen to it, it leads to far more joy and satisfaction.

The secret to finding your purpose

The wonderful thing about purpose is that the process for finding it is the same as for living it, and you don’t have to know what it is to get started.

You live your purpose by expressing who you already are in each action and in each moment. To do this, first listen to what your inner guidance is telling you do to. What action feels right when you’re connected to your wisest self and your innate goodness? What do you feel pulled towards? What fills you up? What brings you joy? What makes you come alive?

How can you nurture what you care about deeply?

After you listen, you do. You act on the guidance you’re getting, or find ways to do more of what makes you feel your best in each decision and in each moment. It doesn’t matter if you see a pattern, can name what you’re doing, or know what’s next. What matters is that each action resonates with you on a deep level and expresses who you really are.

The Listen-Do process works on a day-to-day level as well as on a larger “life” level. You can use the questions to determine what to eat for lunch or you can use them to see which activities, commitments, ideas, professions, organizations, job opportunities, or career paths you feel called to pursue.

No matter what you decide or where you end up, if you follow this process over and over again, you’ll be living your purpose. And you don’t have to do it perfectly (I know I certainly don’t). In my experience, just making a sincere effort leads to loads of joy, meaning, fulfillment, and a sense of doing what you’re meant to even if you have no idea what that actually is.

And if you still really want to know what your purpose is…

I can’t blame you. Sometimes you need to communicate it to others. Sometimes you just really want to know. Here are three things you can try:

  1. Go to https://www.imperative.com/ and take their Work Personality Quiz to get an outside take on what your purpose is.
  2. Write the eulogy you’d like to receive after you die (after a good, long life), keeping in mind that the word comes from the Greek word for praise. How did you impact the people around you? What contributions did you make? How was the world different as a result of you having been in it?
  3. Keep a daily journal listing the things you did that you feel good about or that benefited others in any way, no matter how small. Which were most fulfilling? Which brought you the most joy? Which had the biggest impact? What do these contributions have in common?

Live Your Purpose

If you’re still not sure what your purpose is, more help is available.

I offer individual and group coaching programs at various levels of investment designed to help you identify your purpose, discover what you’re meant to do in the world, and get started actually doing it.

To find out more, schedule a free 1:1 call with me. We’ll illuminate your goals, clarify your challenges, and discuss what each program involves and how it can help. There’s no cost for the call and no obligation to buy anything. Click here to apply for your free call today.


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The Most Powerful Thing You Can Do Today to Discover Your Calling

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I used to envy the people who always knew what they wanted to be when they grew up.  It didn’t matter if their dream was to be a firefighter, doctor, or garbage collector—it was the certainty I craved, not the career itself.

Whenever somebody asked me as a child what work I wanted to do, I had no idea and just made something up.  I wasn’t any more certain by college, and I decided on my major (English) because I got tired of reading non-fiction and wanted to read more novels.

Even after graduation I still had no clarity.  I worked for years in many different types of jobs that I kind-of liked but didn’t feel at home in.

I longed to find my place in the world like some others I had seen, but after so many years, I began to doubt whether that was even possible for me.

What Doesn’t Lead to Clarity

Fast-forward fourteen years, and I’m finally doing work that feels like home to me.  It’s  fun, inspiring, fulfilling, and incredibly rewarding.  It’s certainly challenging at times as well and has its less-than-enjoyable moments, but I feel like I’m finally putting my greatest gifts to good use.

The key to discovering my calling, and to continually following it as it changes, no matter where it leads, is different than what I expected.

It didn’t come from a childhood dream.

It didn’t come in a blinding stroke of insight.

It didn’t come from an assessment that told me what I was good at or what I would enjoy.

It didn’t come from doing work that seemed reasonable, that felt safe, or that I thought I should be doing.

It certainly didn’t come from somebody else telling me what they thought was right for me.

The Key to Your Calling

What helped me clarify my calling was simply this: listening to myself.

It was only after developing a habit of self reflection that I finally got clear on what I wanted to do in life and what the world was calling for from me.

We all have many reasons for not listening to ourselves in daily life: We’re too busy.  We don’t know how.  We don’t want to feel the discomfort of the painful feelings that inevitably arise.

Or maybe we’re afraid of what we’ll find if we listen to what we really want.

And yet when we don’t tune into our internal world, we’re like a house whose thermostat is out on the porch.

This poor house will fruitlessly blow hot or cold air into its rooms based on conditions outside; it won’t know what’s actually needed within its doors to reach its desired temperature.

Similarly, when we don’t listen to ourselves, we don’t know what we need.  Maybe we’re hungry, or cold, or tired.  Maybe we’re scared and in need of reassurance.  Maybe we’re angry and need to speak up. If we don’t stop to listen to what’s happening inside, we’ll never know.

When we start to pay attention to our internal world—our mood, our reactions, our current experience—it’s like taking the thermostat from the porch and bringing it back indoors.  It closes the feedback loop and allows us to adjust and respond based on accurate, up-to-date information.

The Most Powerful Thing You Can Do Today

There are many ways to listen in to yourself, and it can take some experimentation to find what works for you.

To get started, try one of the following ideas today and see how it works for you.  Then try another one tomorrow and another one the next day.  Once you’ve tried them all and seen what’s most effective for you, commit to doing at least one a day.

  • Meditate.  Insight (or Vipassana) and body scan meditations are particularly good ways to turn your attention towards your current experience.  I recommend starting with 5-10 minutes of meditation daily and building from there.  Remember that the goal isn’t to quiet your mind, but rather to get to know your internal world, so there’s no way to do this wrong if you do it with sincerity.  Headspace.com has some great resources for beginning meditators, RelaxLikeaBoss.com has a thorough and actionable free mindfulness guide, and mindfulness instructor Augusta Hopkins offers multiple body scan meditations on her website for free.
  • Write.  For some people, writing is the key to self discovery.  Bestselling  author Julia Cameron recommends writing 3 pages every morning as a way of breaking through creative blocks.  To practice this form of self reflection, set a timer for 10-15 minutes once a day and then write, stream-of-consciousness style, about anything that comes to you.  Don’t worry about being eloquent or profound.  Just move your pen the entire time, even if you have to write: “I have no idea what to say” until something else comes to you.
  • Check in with yourself regularlyI personally find it very helpful to take a few minutes 2-3 times a day to get curious about how I’m feeling and why.  One way to do this is to pause before you eat a meal and observe:  What is your mood right now?  What body sensations do you notice?  What have you been thinking about?  If you notice a strong internal reaction, it can be helpful to become curious:  What are you responding to?  Why are you feeling the way you are?  What are you wanting?
  • Talk with othersSome people become more aware of their internal world by sharing it with others.  If saying things out loud tends to create more clarity for you, then it can be helpful to talk to others regularly.  Make sure, however, to find someone who can listen without offering their own opinions or advice.  This is a time to get clarity about yourself, not input from others.  The best way to ensure this is to ask the person directly for what you need before you get started.
  • Move your body.  Some people struggle with sitting still for meditation, and involving the body can sometimes make it easier.  Yoga is one form of moving meditation, but walking, dancing, or just about anything else that moves your body can work as well.  The key to this form of self reflection is paying attention to your experience as you move.  You might do this by focusing on your breath, or on sensations in your body, or on what you feel in your core.  Whatever you do, do it daily and keep bringing your attention back to your current experience as you move, over and over again.

Over to You

What are your favorite forms of self reflection?  What helps you listen in and take your current temperature?

I’d love to hear from you.  Please share your experience in the comments below.

The Perfect Opportunity for Listening In

The next Pathfinders (a Group Hike and Discussion to Discover Your Calling) is coming up on Saturday, June 27th.

This event is an opportunity to combine several powerful methods for self reflection in a beautiful environment with a supportive community.

You’ll talk with peers about what’s happening for you in your search for work you love.  You’ll have the chance to meditate and practice checking in with yourself.  And you’ll  move your body as you walk in the woods, one of the most effective environments for gaining insight and clarity.

As one participant put it: “The metaphor of finding one’s path became real through this grounding experience of connecting with nature and other people from an array of backgrounds. The conversations I had helped me process what I want in my career and in life. Perhaps most importantly, it reminded me that many of the questions we ask ourselves are universally human. And that everyone truly has unique gifts to give the world.”

To find out more or to register to join us, click here.


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Solving the Ping-Pong Effect: What to Do When You Can’t Decide What to Do

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It goes something like this:

You’re unhappy with your work.  Then one day, you have an idea for a better job.  You get excited about the idea, and you start to explore it.

At some point in your exploration you discover potential drawbacks.  You feel less excited.  Then you have an idea for another job that might be even better.  You get excited again.

Until you come across potential drawbacks about that idea.  You go back to the first idea.  You get excited, then unexcited, first about one idea, then about the other, over and over again.

Six months later, you’re still in the same job, still unhappy.

I call this the Ping-Pong Effect.

I’m intimately familiar with the Ping-Pong Effect myself.  I can’t tell you how many decisions I’ve talked myself into and then out of within the span of 5 minutes.  That’s why it’s so easy for me to recognize it in others.

For example, I had a client approach me once because he couldn’t decide what to do next in his life and career.  He was an art director and an artist and was considering freelancing, but he worried it wouldn’t provide enough financial security for his family.  Soon afterward, he was offered a job at a technology company in San Francisco, but he wasn’t sure he wanted to move, and he didn’t know if it would allow him enough free time to work on his art.

He was ping-ponging back-and-forth between the options and couldn’t decide which one was better, which one felt right.

The reason we can’t decide

Antonio Demasio is a neuroscientist who studied people who had brain injuries that left them unable to feel emotions.  Through his research, he found an unexpected result of such injuries: the people who could no longer feel their feelings had a much harder time making decisions, even simple ones.

In a televised interview, Demasio describes how one of his patients struggled with the decision of which restaurant to go to, arguing on the one hand that there would be more space and better service at a spot with fewer people, and how on the other hand that might be an indication that the restaurant wasn’t any good.

Without access to his emotions, this man could endlessly list the pros and cons of each option, but he couldn’t decide which was the better choice.

Demasio concluded that emotions are integral not just to making good decisions, but also to “what we construct as wisdom over time.”

It’s not all in your head.

When we ping-pong, we’re usually trying to solve a problem purely by thinking about it.  We’re not drawing from our other two sources of information and wisdom: our emotional and somatic (or body) intelligence.

Our brains are capable of rationalizing anything; they’re also prone to fear, worry, and doubt.  Our emotions, on the other hand, however irrational they may seem, are direct indicators of our heart’s desires.  And our bodies, in their own quiet way, have a wisdom of their own, supporting intuition and giving us a “gut sense” of what feels right.

Integrated together, our heads, hearts, and bodies provide everything you could ever want in a state-of-the-art guidance system: they’re comprehensive, highly accurate, and always available.

By listening to them, we can always find the best answer, every time.

Remember the indecisive art director?

Through our work together, he increased his ability to read his emotional and somatic intelligence.  (It is a skill that requires practice, and unfortunately it’s not something we’re taught in school.)

When he consulted head, heart, and body together, he found that his indecision melted away and the choice became clear: he wanted to freelance and use his free time to invest more in his own art.

He followed his inner guidance and experienced benefits he couldn’t have anticipated.  To start with, he worked on lots of projects he was interested in and well-paid for, and he showed his art several times in well-received events.

He also did some projects with the company that had wanted to hire him.  They got to know him, and he got to know them.  And then one day they offered him a different job doing exactly what he wanted in a highly paid position they designed especially for him.

And when he checked in with head, heart, and body, they all said hell yes.

Listen to your heart (and your gut).

You can discover your own “hell yes” by learning how to draw on your emotional and somatic intelligence.  Here’s how:

Decision Log Exercise

For the next two weeks, keep a Decision Log.  Pause twice a day and think back over the decisions you’ve made, such as what you ate for breakfast, what you chose to work on first after arriving at work, or whether or not to have a conversation with a friend about something that’s bothering you.

For each decision, record:

  1. What thoughts led you to make the decision you did
  2. What emotions led you to choose as you did
  3. What body sensations led to your particular choice (Was it tension in your chest?  Relaxation in your belly?  Heat, cold, numbness, energy, heaviness, tingling, lifting, or anything else?)

You may not know at first what emotions or body sensations led to your decision.  That’s okay.  We only really learn to do this through practice, so start paying more attention to your feelings and body and keep at it.

After you record this as best you can for each decision, go back to previous decisions and record the result: What actually happened?  Were you happy with the result?

Do this for two weeks.  After the two weeks are up, read through your Decision Log and see if you notice any patterns in your decision-making:

  • How did your feelings help or hinder good decision-making?  In what ways did your emotions indicate what you wanted and what was the best choice?
  • How did your body sensations help or hinder good decision-making?  What body sensations were present when something didn’t feel right to you?  What body sensations were present when something did feel right?
  • How did your thoughts help or hinder good decision-making?

Whatever your answers are, if you do this with consistency and sincerity, you’ll learn a lot about how your head, heart, and body indicate what’s right for you.

Learn How to Use Your Full Intelligence

Most of us don’t know how to decipher our emotional or somatic intelligence—it’s not something we’re taught in school.  But you can learn.

I offer individual and group coaching programs at various levels of investment designed to help you learn how to listen to your full intelligence, discover what you’re meant to do in the world, and get started actually doing it.

To find out more, schedule a free 1:1 call with me. We’ll illuminate your goals, clarify your challenges, and discuss what each program involves and how it can help. You’ll get clear about what you need to do to overcome the Ping-Pong Effect and discover the path that’s right for you.There’s no cost for the call and no obligation to buy anything. Click here to apply for your free call today.

 

 

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Can a New Perspective Help You Solve an Old Problem?

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“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”
Albert Einstein

Often when we feel stuck it’s because we’re trying to solve a problem with the same approach that got us into trouble in the first place.  It’s like trying to fix a broken plate with the hammer we just used to smash it.

One reason coaching is effective is because it helps us see possibilities we were previously blind to (and let’s admit it: we all have blind spots).  It helps us see that small bottle of glue that is sitting on the shelf above the hammer.

This exercise is designed to help you discover a new perspective, tap into your internal wisdom, and see that bottle of glue (or closer to it, anyway).  All of which can lead to new ideas, alternative actions, and different results.

  1.  Think about a problem you have, the more upsetting, the better.  Rate how big the problem feels to you, on a scale of 1 to 10.
  2. Off the top of your head, what options occur to you for dealing with this problem?  How do you feel when you think about those options?
  3. Now find a photograph or drawing and get a piece of blank paper and a pen.  Set a timer for 10 minutes.  Turn the photograph or drawing upside-down and draw it, in as much detail as you can, on your blank piece of paper.  Don’t worry about finishing; just draw whatever you can get to before the timer goes off.  Also try not to worry about whether it’s “good” or not.  The important thing is that you draw the details, but for the sake of this exercise, it makes no difference whatsoever how good the final product is.
  1. Now set a timer for 3 minutes.  Stand up (if you’re not already) and put your hands on your hips.  Take a few, deep breaths.  Try to let go of any thoughts that arise—you will come back to them later.  Scan your body and take a moment to release any tension you notice.
    •  Now, for a few breaths, feel the weight of gravity on your body.  Let it pull your shoulders down away from your head.  Feel as if every particle of every atom in your body has dropped towards the center of the earth.  Let each exhale move down through your body, out the bottom of your feet, and deep into the earth.
    •  Now, for a few breaths, feel that an invisible string has been attached to the crown of your head and is pulling you upright.  With each inhale, your back becomes longer and your crown moves closer to the sky.
    •  Now continue to breathe with your hands on your hips, noticing what it feels like in your body to be both fully upright and supported by the ground beneath you.
  1.  When the timer is up, ask yourself these questions:
    1. How does your body feel right now?  What sensations do you notice?
    2. Think of the problem you identified earlier.  How big does it feel now, on a scale of 1-10?
    3. Does anything new occur to you about your problem?  How might you approach it differently?  What new options occur to you?

To find out about other ways coaching can help you overcome challenges and move towards your goals, click here.